What’s your Samaritan score?
Bleeding heart or couldn’t be bothered? Take this quiz to find out how socially conscious you really are
Mumbai Mirror Bureau
Posted On Tuesday, August 23, 2011 at 04:27:00 AM
So you have been doing your bit to support Anna Hazare's movement against corruption, be it out on the streets or online. While it might be easy to get riled up and have Anna awaken your social conscience, did you have any to begin with? Take this questionnaire to figure it out.
1. You are on a lonely road and you spot a man asking for a lift. You…
A. Stop and ask to see where he's headed and give him a lift if he's going your way.
B. Slow down and gauge him. If he looks decent and civil, ask him where he's headed. Else speed on.
C. Give a hitchhiker a lift? Are you crazy?
2. You witness a road accident while driving. You…
A. Stop, get out, check for the wounded and help them out.
B. Note down the license number and call the police as you move on.
C. Honk for the traffic to disperse and drive away.
3. In case of a natural disaster in your country/ state, what do yo do?
A. You donate your time, money and any other resource you can spare to help people out.
B. You write a cheque to the Prime Minister's relief fund and drop in old clothes to a local collection unit.
C. You donate a day's salary for the cause at most.
4. You spot a few teenagers in a rowdy fight. You…
A. Approach them carefully and try and ease things out as a mediator.
B. Tell them to break it up or you'll call the police.
C. Walk on. What is it to you?
5. You're out for a walk and spot an injured animal. You…
A. Rescue the animal and take it to the nearest vet or try and locate its owner.
B. Place a call to an animal shelter and give them directions to the injured animal.
C. Someone is bound to help out. You have other places to be at.
6. You are caught witnessing a violent crime like a robbery. You…
A. Run to help out immediately. Quickly gather helping hands and help the wounded.
B. Sneak away and call for the police. Wait till the thugs leave before you help the wounded.
C. Make a run for it. It's not worth your life.
7. An elderly gentleman/ lady are trying to make their way to a train coach in a local. You…
A. Walk over and help them in, probably missing your train in the bargain.
B. Ask someone heading in that direction to take them on.
C. Avoid eye contact and walk on.
8. There is a large dwelling of homeless people in your neighbourhood. You…
A. Go across once a week with some biscuits, extra clothes and toys.
B. Donate to a local charity once in a while.
C. Call the cops and complain about the encroachment, nuisance and filth.
CHECKPOINT
Mostly As
Not only are you a Good Samaritan, you go out of your way to help people in any way you can. While it’s a great philosophy for life, one must be careful because you might land yourself in situations of danger. It’s wise to be wary because the world is full of people who like to take advantage of people like you.
Your generosity and large-heartedness is a welcome treat. But you might also want to introspect on why you stretch yourself thin to help others out. It might be an emotional void that you’re trying to fill by being overtly-helpful.
That said, there just aren’t enough people like you in the world. So whether you’re angling to stash away karmic points or helping people genuinely makes you happy, teach and encourage your children and friends to do the same.
Mostly Bs
You try to do your bit but practicality gets in the way. You limit yourself to things that are easily doable without going out of your way. You are also careful and particular about not getting yourself in dangerous situations. It’s a smart thing to do. However, your overcautious attitude might actually keep you from helping out more people than you could. You try and do the bare minimum to make sure your guilt doesn’t act up. A strictly safe option.
Mostly Cs
While a lot of us can probably associate with these characteristics, it only goes to show that years of urban living has made us insensitive to the poor and those in agony. Our defense mechanisms and daily pressures keep us from being helpful citizens and sensitive people. Over time, these qualities become inherent and even the guilt factor stops playing up.
While we are blessed and we pay gratitude to our respective gods, we fail to uphold basic humanitarian duties towards each other. One doesn’t need to go out of their way to help out. It’s mostly a simple gesture that makes all the difference to someone in need.
Introspect on your attitude and reflect upon how you can be grateful for the comforts you have been blessed with. Not to mention, karmically, it’s a great bonus.
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
Wednesday, August 03, 2011
The body doesn’t lie - a look at somatic assessments
Posted by Mark Walsh in Soft skills on Mon, 07/25/2011 - 09:30
Humans are leaking and reading signals all of the time.
Somatic assessments rely upon posture and movement patterns rather than short-term situational factors.
The basic factors that make a body work effectively are relaxation, structure, balance, responsiveness and energy.
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Business people
Somatic assessments can give us deep insights into other people. Mark Walsh explains.
"The body doesn’t lie" - Martha Graham, founder of modern dance.
It is an innate skill to experience another person’s body and make assessments of them as people based on what you see or feel. A dog or small child can do this and it is part of life to get gut feelings about others based on these usually unconscious somatic assessments*.
We are leaking and reading signals the whole time as to who we and others are via the body. While we all use this skillset daily, it has been neglected in organisational life and is much misunderstood.
We may choose partners or job candidates based on "chemistry" or how we click with people and yet it is a largely unrefined skill. Sadly, in our hyper-rational Western culture embodied knowing is not just undeveloped but often ignored (the police say that most victims of violent crime for example ignore their instincts**) and it is difficult for many trainers and HR managers to acknowledge it as something they do.
"Somatic assessments can be done in just a few seconds so they are also quick and, once trained, easy with minimal input."
How then do we make accurate judgements of what a person’s body reveals so we can better relate to them as trainers? First some clarifications and background:
Where does it come from?
The pioneers in this work were Rudolf Laban and his students who came from a dance background, and Dr Richard Strozzi-Heckler and his group who come from the world of martial arts and meditation. Both groups have been applying this work in business for many years and there are others who have studied the body intensely who have developed parallel work.
Is this just body language?
No, somatic assessments rely upon posture and movement patterns rather than short-term situational factors and more culturally conditioned gestures. Somatic assessments are concerned with who someone is, not just what they are saying with their bodies.
Are you saying short people are one way and tall people another?
No, it is more complex than this. It doesn’t matter so much the shape of you body but how you live "in" it and move with it. You can have no legs and be very grounded, or be short and very upright in the sense I am talking about.
Advantages
The advantages of somatic assessments over psychometric tests, for example, are obvious. Bodies are readily available to observe and a job candidate who may lie on paper for example, will find it very difficult to move in a convincingly different way.
Trying usually just looks odd and while trained actors may spend years trying to do this convincingly it is often immediately apparent that they are acting. Somatic assessments can be (and are usually unconsciously) done in just a few seconds so they are also quick and, once trained, easy with minimal input. Trainers can benefit from being able to quickly see the preferred learning styles and personality types in a group before learning what they are the hard way.
Again, most experienced trainers have an intuitive sense of this, being able to spot ditfficult delegates easily for example, so it is about refining an innate skill and training out prejudices which lace purely unconscious assessments.
Technique and ethics - analysis, trying on and trying out
In many ways body reading is intimate and I won’t consciously do it in a full way unless asked to, I think I am at risk myself (it has saved my life several times while working in areas of conflict) or in professional service of others - e.g. as a trainer.For me, ethics and a core of respect are vital when working with embodied evaluations. Any assessment should be viewed as just a guess, to be tried out by asking the person (and sometimes their colleagues) if it is the case and observing their behaviour over time to check for congruence (careful of the observer effect here though). I have come to trust and rely upon assessments having seen their accuracy on many occasions with diverse groups worldwide, though still view them as guesses or working theories out of respect.
One basic technique is to try on a taste of the posture and movement of the person you are assessing and to feel what it is like. What does it make possible? How is it emotionally? How might others respond to this body? It takes practice to accurately observe and imitate and even more so to do it in a subtle way that won’t be noticed, however even a child can copy others so most people can do this to some extent.
Some things to look out for
Aside from “trying on” it is necessary to have some models to avoid slipping into personal prejudice (knowing your own embodied type inside-out also helps with this as you know the lens you are seeing others through) and to help when it’s hard to get a subjective felt-sense of someone. While beyond the scope of this short introduction to provide in-depth models here are a few pointers.
Lead: What part of their body does the person lead with? A head, heart or belly lead shows how they orientate in the world.
Task or relationship: Are they primarily task or relationship focused? Task focused driven people have very different bodies to more relational people - e.g. more symmetrical posture, quicker more linear movement, “harder” gaze, etc (think of some people you know). While situational factors of course play a part as with any model, the embodied habits are usually easy to see beneath this.
The five pillars
The five basic factors that make a body (and therefore mind) work effectively are relaxation, structure, balance, responsiveness and energy for movement. These are relatively easy to see especially the first three and correlate with personality as one might expect (the language of bodies and personalities, e.g. “balanced” is strongly correlated for a reason).
Six dimensions
The dimensions a person inhabits have meaning. Down is about how grounded we are and connect to practical application and sadness and despair emotionally; upon is about vision, ethics and happiness and stress emotionally for example. This is just a taste. Other models such as archetypes can also be used or embodied versions of established typologies such as MBTI or OCEAN. More detailed models can be found here.
Research opportunity and conclusion
The field of embodiment is ballooning academically as universities realise there is much going on “below the collar”. Some initial studies have been done in this area though more needs to be done for what is intuitively quite obvious to establish scientific validity.
I have mapped established psychometrics in the hope of someone wishing to do this research. Until then it seems a shame not to use what I repeatedly find useful in training and in life. Somatic assessments can give us deep insights into other people so I hope this article has been helpful.
* Somatic comes form the Greek and means the felt, subjective experience of the body
** See The Gift Of Fear, Gavin Decker
Mark Walsh leads business leadership training provider Integration Training - based in Brighton, London and Birmingham UK. Specialising in working with emotions, the body and spirituality at work they help organisations get more done without going insane (time resilience and stress management), coordinate action more effectively (team building and communication training) and leaders build impact, influence and presence. Clients include Virgin Atlantic, UNICEF, The Sierra Leonian Army and the University of Sussex.
Taking it from nature
Great to find something that adds to my own experience and knowledge of 'gut feel' or intuitive assessment. I'm particularly taken with the idea of the physical 'lead' and the clues it might provide for early engagement with a trainee. I'd very much like to read or learn more.
We're all reading each other at all times, but for some reason we've chosen as a species to factor out our own gut feel to a great extent, while small children and animals haven't done the same, and so seem to display an uncanny sense of threat or danger...or indeed hugs!
Time to get back to our more animalsitc selves and make best use of our intuitive abilities perhaps?
Somatic Assessment
A great knowing that resides in our intuitive self. I believe this knowledge, NLP, Emotional Intelligence and others create the Informed Self, someone with knowledge to aid their intuition. As you gather the knowledge you can readily assess for skills, abilities and motivation with greater accuracy. We live our lives acquiring knowledge and education then the moment arrives, can we use it to support ourselves and another human being. The journey continues. David Beverly, New Jersey
How to train for new behaviours
Posted by Stephen Walker in Soft skills on Fri, 07/22/2011 - 09:00
In a training audience there will be a mixture of motivations for being there.
Use multi-style delivery techniques to ensure the widest coverage.
Your delivery has to encompass education and entertainment.
Stephen Walker looks at how new ideas are created in the trainee's mind and the steps needed to achieve the optimum success for your training.
What does training do?
Training is used to produce one or more of three changes in the recipients. These changes are: to acquire or develop new physical skills, new thought processes or new behaviour patterns.
Posted by Mark Walsh in Soft skills on Mon, 07/25/2011 - 09:30
Humans are leaking and reading signals all of the time.
Somatic assessments rely upon posture and movement patterns rather than short-term situational factors.
The basic factors that make a body work effectively are relaxation, structure, balance, responsiveness and energy.
5
inShare
Business people
Somatic assessments can give us deep insights into other people. Mark Walsh explains.
"The body doesn’t lie" - Martha Graham, founder of modern dance.
It is an innate skill to experience another person’s body and make assessments of them as people based on what you see or feel. A dog or small child can do this and it is part of life to get gut feelings about others based on these usually unconscious somatic assessments*.
We are leaking and reading signals the whole time as to who we and others are via the body. While we all use this skillset daily, it has been neglected in organisational life and is much misunderstood.
We may choose partners or job candidates based on "chemistry" or how we click with people and yet it is a largely unrefined skill. Sadly, in our hyper-rational Western culture embodied knowing is not just undeveloped but often ignored (the police say that most victims of violent crime for example ignore their instincts**) and it is difficult for many trainers and HR managers to acknowledge it as something they do.
"Somatic assessments can be done in just a few seconds so they are also quick and, once trained, easy with minimal input."
How then do we make accurate judgements of what a person’s body reveals so we can better relate to them as trainers? First some clarifications and background:
Where does it come from?
The pioneers in this work were Rudolf Laban and his students who came from a dance background, and Dr Richard Strozzi-Heckler and his group who come from the world of martial arts and meditation. Both groups have been applying this work in business for many years and there are others who have studied the body intensely who have developed parallel work.
Is this just body language?
No, somatic assessments rely upon posture and movement patterns rather than short-term situational factors and more culturally conditioned gestures. Somatic assessments are concerned with who someone is, not just what they are saying with their bodies.
Are you saying short people are one way and tall people another?
No, it is more complex than this. It doesn’t matter so much the shape of you body but how you live "in" it and move with it. You can have no legs and be very grounded, or be short and very upright in the sense I am talking about.
Advantages
The advantages of somatic assessments over psychometric tests, for example, are obvious. Bodies are readily available to observe and a job candidate who may lie on paper for example, will find it very difficult to move in a convincingly different way.
Trying usually just looks odd and while trained actors may spend years trying to do this convincingly it is often immediately apparent that they are acting. Somatic assessments can be (and are usually unconsciously) done in just a few seconds so they are also quick and, once trained, easy with minimal input. Trainers can benefit from being able to quickly see the preferred learning styles and personality types in a group before learning what they are the hard way.
Again, most experienced trainers have an intuitive sense of this, being able to spot ditfficult delegates easily for example, so it is about refining an innate skill and training out prejudices which lace purely unconscious assessments.
Technique and ethics - analysis, trying on and trying out
In many ways body reading is intimate and I won’t consciously do it in a full way unless asked to, I think I am at risk myself (it has saved my life several times while working in areas of conflict) or in professional service of others - e.g. as a trainer.For me, ethics and a core of respect are vital when working with embodied evaluations. Any assessment should be viewed as just a guess, to be tried out by asking the person (and sometimes their colleagues) if it is the case and observing their behaviour over time to check for congruence (careful of the observer effect here though). I have come to trust and rely upon assessments having seen their accuracy on many occasions with diverse groups worldwide, though still view them as guesses or working theories out of respect.
One basic technique is to try on a taste of the posture and movement of the person you are assessing and to feel what it is like. What does it make possible? How is it emotionally? How might others respond to this body? It takes practice to accurately observe and imitate and even more so to do it in a subtle way that won’t be noticed, however even a child can copy others so most people can do this to some extent.
Some things to look out for
Aside from “trying on” it is necessary to have some models to avoid slipping into personal prejudice (knowing your own embodied type inside-out also helps with this as you know the lens you are seeing others through) and to help when it’s hard to get a subjective felt-sense of someone. While beyond the scope of this short introduction to provide in-depth models here are a few pointers.
Lead: What part of their body does the person lead with? A head, heart or belly lead shows how they orientate in the world.
Task or relationship: Are they primarily task or relationship focused? Task focused driven people have very different bodies to more relational people - e.g. more symmetrical posture, quicker more linear movement, “harder” gaze, etc (think of some people you know). While situational factors of course play a part as with any model, the embodied habits are usually easy to see beneath this.
The five pillars
The five basic factors that make a body (and therefore mind) work effectively are relaxation, structure, balance, responsiveness and energy for movement. These are relatively easy to see especially the first three and correlate with personality as one might expect (the language of bodies and personalities, e.g. “balanced” is strongly correlated for a reason).
Six dimensions
The dimensions a person inhabits have meaning. Down is about how grounded we are and connect to practical application and sadness and despair emotionally; upon is about vision, ethics and happiness and stress emotionally for example. This is just a taste. Other models such as archetypes can also be used or embodied versions of established typologies such as MBTI or OCEAN. More detailed models can be found here.
Research opportunity and conclusion
The field of embodiment is ballooning academically as universities realise there is much going on “below the collar”. Some initial studies have been done in this area though more needs to be done for what is intuitively quite obvious to establish scientific validity.
I have mapped established psychometrics in the hope of someone wishing to do this research. Until then it seems a shame not to use what I repeatedly find useful in training and in life. Somatic assessments can give us deep insights into other people so I hope this article has been helpful.
* Somatic comes form the Greek and means the felt, subjective experience of the body
** See The Gift Of Fear, Gavin Decker
Mark Walsh leads business leadership training provider Integration Training - based in Brighton, London and Birmingham UK. Specialising in working with emotions, the body and spirituality at work they help organisations get more done without going insane (time resilience and stress management), coordinate action more effectively (team building and communication training) and leaders build impact, influence and presence. Clients include Virgin Atlantic, UNICEF, The Sierra Leonian Army and the University of Sussex.
Taking it from nature
Great to find something that adds to my own experience and knowledge of 'gut feel' or intuitive assessment. I'm particularly taken with the idea of the physical 'lead' and the clues it might provide for early engagement with a trainee. I'd very much like to read or learn more.
We're all reading each other at all times, but for some reason we've chosen as a species to factor out our own gut feel to a great extent, while small children and animals haven't done the same, and so seem to display an uncanny sense of threat or danger...or indeed hugs!
Time to get back to our more animalsitc selves and make best use of our intuitive abilities perhaps?
Somatic Assessment
A great knowing that resides in our intuitive self. I believe this knowledge, NLP, Emotional Intelligence and others create the Informed Self, someone with knowledge to aid their intuition. As you gather the knowledge you can readily assess for skills, abilities and motivation with greater accuracy. We live our lives acquiring knowledge and education then the moment arrives, can we use it to support ourselves and another human being. The journey continues. David Beverly, New Jersey
How to train for new behaviours
Posted by Stephen Walker in Soft skills on Fri, 07/22/2011 - 09:00
In a training audience there will be a mixture of motivations for being there.
Use multi-style delivery techniques to ensure the widest coverage.
Your delivery has to encompass education and entertainment.
Stephen Walker looks at how new ideas are created in the trainee's mind and the steps needed to achieve the optimum success for your training.
What does training do?
Training is used to produce one or more of three changes in the recipients. These changes are: to acquire or develop new physical skills, new thought processes or new behaviour patterns.
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